I don’t believe in fairy tales. I wrote a paper on fairy tales for my psy class before. Recently a friend mentioned that his relationship is a fairy tale that God has allowed them to develop. I am not being skeptical here, but realistic. Fairy tales don’t exist in the real world. Well simply because fairy tales are self-indulgent and it encourages day-dreaming. Which girl doesn’t daydream about being whisked off her feet by Prince Charming. Hullo! Relationships take work! Relationships crucify certain areas of our lives. I rather call it a love story God is developing. The word "love" carries a deeper connotation than just a nice feeling. Look at the cross. Love involves sacrifices and pain. So, girls, if you dream of a knight in shining armour to come carry you off, your vision is off-kilter. We are no damsels to be rescued by a mortal man. Our solace comes from God. When you forsake your first purpose, and take your desires into your own hands, you open yourself up to deception. 

And girls, you don’t have to be Little Miss Perfect either! "When a man loves you, he loves you. His love will cover your imperfections… Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unacceptable, undesirable, unlovely, or that you have to work for love is too expensive… God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams… The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals." (M.K. Hammond, 2000). 

So it’s ok if you don’t own a pair of glass slippers. Dance barefoot!

“1st Law of Serendipity :
In order to discover anything you must be looking for something.”

Bumped into a couple yesterday. Was just telling Jo had a feeling might bump into them. Just as we stepped out of Ivan’s car and made our way towards the beach, a car rounded the corner and my eyes nearly popped out! It was them with Beckham leaning into the front seats! So qiao! When things are too predictable, it doesn’t allow God to work in the law of serendipity, Jo said. 

Ivan said, it seems that it’s God’s style to bless you when you least expect it. Don’t be surprised when he “wrecks” your plans.

My thoughts are one of purpose. What purpose in a season does God plan for us? I think God works according to the purpose He has laid for us. Things do not happen by chance. I am confident that anything that happens to us are by God’s design. He is not going to say “Ops! I didn’t realize that was going under my nose! Gee! I’ll make it up to you next round!” So I do agree with the first law of serendipity. We need to seek God’s purpose in order to discover it. And yes it will happen when we least expect it.  

I think it’s so cool to know that though we may not know exactly what scenery we will get, we can be sure that we can follow the Driver on this ride.

Law of Serendipity: If you are on the right track, things will come together in unexpected ways, when you least expect them to.

By Sandi Patty, one of my fav gospel singers

There’s a little narrow gate 

At the top of the hill

And it beckons my heart 

To enter in

And follow where it leads

And the path that leads through this gate of dreams 

Takes me away

With the wind on my back

The journey before me

I set my feet on the road that leads to life

Take the hand of the one who’d be my companion 

He will show me the place to begin

All of my life I’ve been waiting

Could this be this place I can start

When your resolve to do the right thing is going through fire and the scorching heat hurts like hell, remember you do not go through it alone. This fire cleanses you. This fire is saving you from a more painful and disastrous situation.

Prov 20

v24 A man’s steps are from the Lord; how then can man understand his way?

v27 The spirit of the man is the lamp of the Lord

v30 Blows that wound cleanse away evil; strokes make clean the innermost parts