“Iron sharpens iron,” interesting points Jo’s bringing up, “each inputting into each other’s life in his or her own way. His strength covers her lack, hers his. Both are complete. Both become better people. No need to strive or expect or have a shopping list, if God has ordained it for you in your life.”

Ah’s BF changed her. She becomes more patient and less bad-tempered while he becomes more intellectual. Perfect match, she said.

A friend wants an eloquent BF but her BF isn’t but he’s a deep thinker. So in the end it doesn’t matter that he can’t speak well because his thoughts provoke her.

I suppose we change when we are in a relationship. I see it as becoming a more balanced person. When he sees me for who I am and encourages me to be more of who I am, and I, him. Not becoming less of ourselves. It’s not about satisfying someone else’ criteria, but becoming more of the vessel God designed us to be.

Certain experiences have occurred in my life which enable me to access my thoughts and emotions in a deeper level, thoughts and emotions which have been lying dormant. I am glad those experiences happened. I become more of myself, a fuller person. interestingly, I made a new friend recently. I find myself fleeing from him as fast as you can say “go!” He’s inert, pessimist, “nuar” and negative. Talking with him leaves me drained. He doesn’t inspire me at all or bring any joy. Yet interacting with him has given me new insights to myself. People mirror what is already in us.

The idea of a man being perfectly-flawed is appealing because it shows him to be authentically-human, which keeps him closer to God and down-2-earth. ONLY, if he keeps himself close to God and down-2-earth, that is. Who wants to be with anyone who thinks he is god and plays God!

I think God is wise in allowing humans enough trials to keep us dependent on Him. Think about this formula and fill in the blank: intelligence + sinful nature = ________________